The Kindness Flash #47

This month’s theme: DILIGENCE


Reflections

Reflections by Orly Wahba<< Listening to this song >>, tears instantly stream to my face. I recall teenage Orly watching Disney’s Hercules back in 1997 and first hearing this song. I was this overly shy, highly self critical teenager with no self esteem and no voice. A fire took my home that year and with it my last shred of strength to overcome my feelings of isolation and confusion. My world was crashing all around me. I may not have had a voice, but I had a dream in my heart. A dream to do something great in this world – to truly leave my mark. But how? Read More >>

Reflections by Bella Yang (LVI Intern) – I used to think about diligence exclusively in a “work” context — working hard in school, going the extra mile at a job. Over quarantine, I had time to re-conceptualize my relationship with “work” and broaden my definition of diligence. Read More >>


Articles of the Month

Diligence: The Key Ingredient To Success – Hurdles are bound to come up on the way to success and discourage you to stop following your goal, but if you are diligent, you will have the ability to handle the tough phases of life to your advantage for smooth and early completion of tasks. So to be successful in every sphere of life, you need to practice diligence.

15 Fulfilling Ways to be Diligent – If you want to be successful, then being diligent or hard-working should be one of your top qualities. It allows you to accomplish more in less time, without sacrificing quality.


“Gardens are not made by singing ‘Oh, how beautiful!’ and sitting in the shade.”

Rudyard Kipling

“What we hope ever to do with ease, we must first learn to do with diligence.”

Samuel Johnson

“The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.”

Confucius

“Love what you do and do what you love.”

Ray Bradbury


Act of Kindness

Being diligent is an essential skill in all aspects of life. It involves being able to focus and concentrate persistently to achieve the completion of the task at hand. By maintaining focus and self-discipline and by practicing self-care, you can be diligent in your work and accomplish your goals, whether personal, professional or academic.

Over the first half of this month, track what diligence means to you — does it refer more so to work or to the effort applied to work? In the middle of the month, take a minute to reframe how diligence could apply to your life if you deem this task relevant. Over the rest of the month’s course, notice how your habits and your way of thinking have shifted to align with your newfangled impression of diligence.


Question of the Month

Is there a difference between being diligent and being a hard worker to you? Share here or in the comments below.


Kindness Media

Photo of the Month

How does this photo represent the trait of diligence? Share your thoughts.

Songs of the Month

A song about being willing to work hard and never giving up until it’s done.

An awesome reminder to never give up on one’s goals or dreams. Work hard against all odds and before you know it you’ll get where one wants to go. Greatness is a choice that we get to choose every day – what will you choose?

Videos of the Month

A Japanese technique called Kaizen, or the one-minute principle. Kaizen originated in Japan, and it is something that anyone can attempt in any sphere of their life. At the heart of this method is the idea that you should practice doing something for a single minute. Every day at the same time. Just for a minute, no more.

Tim Urban knows that procrastination doesn’t make sense, but he’s never been able to shake his habit of waiting until the last minute to get things done. In this hilarious and insightful talk, Urban takes us on a journey through YouTube binges, Wikipedia rabbit holes and bouts of staring out the window — and encourages us to think harder about what we’re really procrastinating on, before we run out of time.

Books of the Month

Diligence: The Master Key To Achieving Your Dreams: Learning How To Reach Your Goals Step By Step – Sheldon D. Newton – Many people have become discouraged because they are not realizing their dreams. They are experiencing so few results. But true success is attainable and can become your reality when you understand that it is simply a matter of applying the principles which lead there. The Master Key to all achievement is Diligence.

The Persistence Formula: How To Overcome Obstacles and Get Things Done – Michael Marani – If you are looking for a formulaic approach that can help you define, stay focused and follow through with your long term goals while you enjoy your life this book is for you. It aims to help the people who struggle to stick with their pursuits.

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance – Angela Duckworth – In this instant New York Times bestseller, Angela Duckworth shows anyone striving to succeed that the secret to outstanding achievement is not talent, but a special blend of passion and persistence she calls “grit.” “Inspiration for non-geniuses everywhere”

Grit: The Power of Habit (Bella) – The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business is a book by Charles Duhigg, a New York Times reporter, published in February 2012 by Random House. It explores the science behind habit creation and reformation. The book reached the best seller list for The New York Times, Amazon.com, and USA Today.

Farmer Duck – Martin Waddell – The story is about a duck who does everything around the farm because the farmer is too lazy to do the work himself. When Farmer Duck finally collapses from exhaustion, the other farmyard animals decide to pitch in and come up with a surprising plan.

Stuck – Oliver Jeffers – A light-hearted look at diligence and problem-solving, this silly story is about a boy whose kite gets stuck in a tree. He continues to throw objects at the tree in an attempt to rescue it, creating an ever-more-humorous scenario.

The Most Magnificent Thing – Ashley Spires – A young girl decides to create something magnificent, but her project turns out to be far from easy, and she repeatedly tries and fails. Kids will relate to her emotions of frustration and anger, but will also see that she eventually changes her perspective, starts over, and perseveres. This story has a great message for kids about not giving up when a good idea doesn’t work out at first.


Reflections on Diligence - Orly Wahba

Listening to this song, tears instantly stream to my face. I recall teenage Orly watching Disney’s Hercules back in 1997 and first hearing this song. I was this overly shy, highly self critical teenager with no self esteem and no voice. A fire took my home that year and with it my last shred of strength to overcome my feelings of isolation and confusion. My world was crashing all around me. I may not have had a voice, but I had a dream in my heart. A dream to do something great in this world – to truly leave my mark. But how? I didn’t feel like I belonged, I didn’t even feel comfortable in my own skin, how would I ever make an impact in this world? The more I tried to find my place, the more it eluded me.

When I heard this song back then there was a lump in my throat. It was as if someone saw me, winked at me and was cheering me on knowing full well that I would reach my eventual fate. “Just keep going Orly. You’re a shooting star – YOU can go the distance! Don’t accept defeat. It’s an uphill slope, but don’t lose hope.”

This song became the voice in the back of my head pushing me forward when all I wanted to do was give up and throw in the towel. “Going the Distance” and “Embracing our Fate” can be a long and bumpy road.

Teenage Orly eventually had the courage to let her inner voice come to the forefront. I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing some incredible wins in my life, ones that my younger self would be proud of.

But listening to this song again now, today, that lump in the back of my throat came back. Life is filled with loads of ups and downs and I happen to be experiencing one of those downers as we speak. From my physical health dealing with endless migraines to the endless questions that fill my mind. I find myself feeling as though I’m that teenager all over again. I have so much in my heart that is just fighting to burst through, so much to give, I haven’t even touched the surface, but I feel as though I have lost my voice – my ability to bring those dreams into fruition.

And so once again, I take a deep breath, look at myself in the mirror with caring eyes and remind myself, “Orly – it’s an uphill slope, but don’t lose hope. Your journey is most certainly not complete. You may not know where you are headed from here but just remember, YOU can go the distance and every mile will be worth your while”.

The last thing I meant for this post is to make anyone feel sad and wonder what must be wrong. Instead, I ask you to do me the greatest kindness. STOP wherever you are right now, look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself that YOU MATTER, that YOU ARE SEEN and that YOU are meant to achieve greatness. If only each person in this incredible world of ours embraced their inherent greatness, perhaps we would recognize that the journey we need to take is a journey to self love. That journey is not found out there, but in YOU.

Sending love and strength to my fellow travelers along the journey of life. YOU CAN GO THE DISTANCE.


Reflections on Diligence

I used to think about diligence exclusively in a “work” context — working hard in school, going the extra mile at a job. Over quarantine, I had time to re-conceptualize my relationship with “work” and broaden my definition of diligence. It started with small tasks: doing yoga, trying my hand at painting, picking up piano again. I realized that this concept of diligence, of working hard, also encompasses perseverance and resilience; and there is not one area that it cannot be applied to. Even the activities that I considered hobbies required their amount of diligence. I can’t learn a piece on the piano without practicing at least once a day and an intrinsic part of this sort of consistency is being able to overcome frustration and boredom. I realized that it was not enough to merely work hard some days, burn out, and not work other days — bouncing around between these two extremes, and never exploring that middle ground was impeding my sense of the quotidian. It finally clicked for me that diligence, to me, implies routine and most importantly adaptability. Hard work does not need to be monotonous, but diligence is inextricable from persistence and mental fortitude. To that end, I also realized that I needed to put into place a series of self care processes that would make me ready and energized for that day — being kind to myself translated to a greater willingness to discover more. I’m grateful for the time quarantine afforded me to introspect and think critically about habits and relationships that I developed with this notion of diligence. I’m still working to fully incorporate my newfound conception of diligence into my life but I’m left wondering if these times have changed anyone else’s relationship with work and diligence. We would love to hear your responses!

– Bella Yang, Intern, Life Vest Inside


The Daily Kindness Digest #1189

Kindness Quote

“What you plant now, you will harvest later.”

Og Mandino

Act of Kindness

Plan a fun outing to a local orchard with family or friends.

Positive Affirmation

Today I am insightful. I see through the cracks and water seeds of greatness within people that others may have lost sight of.

Kindness Media

A woman's bear transformations make people feel good and smile!

The Daily Kindness Digest #1188

Kindness Quote

“A person’s a person, no matter how small.”

Dr. Seuss

Act of Kindness

In conversations today, be mindful of saying the person’s name when greeting them and don’t forget to make eye contact.

Positive Affirmation

Today I think twice before I speak. Words create things and I for one want to create love.

Kindness Media

A mission to spread the message of praying for peace.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1187

Kindness Quote

“The paradox of gifts: I know what I have given you. I do not know what you have received.”

Dr. SunWolf

Act of Kindness

Know someone going through a rough patch? Fill a box with some of their favorite treats and ship them a care package.

Positive Affirmation

Today I recognize all I have to offer. I don’t hesitate to give of myself.

Kindness Media

A couple who live out their desire to help animals any way they can like a couple of comic book superheroes.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1186

Kindness Quote

“People may not always tell you how they feel about you, but their actions will speak for themselves.”

Ash Sweeney

Act of Kindness

Offer to do the dishes. It may not be your turn or even something common in your household, but a simple gesture and action on your part can say “I love you” without a word.

Positive Affirmation

Today I am a change maker! I can show, not just tell, others how they can make an impact. My actions have the ability to make a change and it’s about time I do something to make a positive impact.

Kindness Media

A community that empowers women to transform their lives and the lives of their families.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1185

Kindness Quote

“Find what makes your heart sing and create your own music.”

Mac Anderson

Act of Kindness

Keep a daily log of good deeds. It will be a secret journal with yourself that you can look back on when you’re feeling down.

Positive Affirmation

Today I will pause and look back on my life to appreciate the great things I’ve accomplished, while continuing to dream of what I can still be.

Kindness Media

We all are given one chance at life and instead of taking the safe road, we should all use our gifts and talents to do something exceptional.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1184

Kindness Quote

“The best way to get ahead is to get started.”

Mark Twain

Act of Kindness

Set your alarm a little earlier and make a point to arrive on time today. Show others that you value their time by being punctual.

Positive Affirmation

Today I understand the importance of time in life. I start on time and I arrive on time.

Kindness Media

We have an obligation to share the wisdom we have acquired with others around the world who need love and encouragement.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1183

Kindness Quote

“All kids need is a little help, a little hope, and somebody who believes in them.”

Magic Johnson

Act of Kindness

Join a Big Brother/ Big Sister program in your community. You’ll quickly learn just how much you have to offer simply by being you.

Positive Affirmation

Today I am POWERFUL. I have the power to change the world with kindness simply by being an example of kindness.

Kindness Media

This 1200-Pound Bison can teach us to be compassionate.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1182

Kindness Quote

“Trust that little voice in your head that says, ‘Wouldn’t it be interesting if…,’ and then do it.”

Duane Michals

Act of Kindness

See someone eating alone? Ask to join them.

Positive Affirmation

Today I will not let words get to me. If someone tells me to take a long walk off a short pier, I will ask them to join.

Kindness Media

Selfless people who are dedicated to making sure our animal friends are living their best lives.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1181

Kindness Quote

“Real unselfishness consists of sharing the interests of others.”

George Santayana

Act of Kindness

Help an elderly person across the street. Go ahead, ask their name and share a bit about yourself. A personal touch makes all the difference.

Positive Affirmation

Today I am vulnerable. I don’t hold back and share myself with others.

Kindness Media

His mission is to help people become the best versions of themselves and as a result, make the world a better place.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1180

Kindness Quote

“There is more to life than increasing its speed.”

Mahatma Gandhi

Act of Kindness

Human connection satisfies something completely different than Wi-Fi connection. We validate our friends and classmates on social media with likes, comments, and follows, but today validate a friend by picking up the phone and calling them.

Positive Affirmation

Today I will enjoy connecting with another person face to face. I don’t take that interaction for granted.

Kindness Media

Mother runs marathons with daughter who has cerebral palsy.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1179

Kindness Quote

“All I ever wanted was to reach out and touch another human being not just with my hands but with my heart.”

Tahereh Mafi

Act of Kindness

Make up with a friend you’re fighting with. Remember we all make mistakes.

Positive Affirmation

Today I will strive to reach my goals but also help others reach theirs!

Kindness Media

Adorable therapy dog helps children read.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1178

Kindness Quote

“Be so happy that when others look at you, they become happy, too.”

Yogi Bhajan

Act of Kindness

Focus on the positive! Practice giving heartfelt compliments to your siblings, spouse, parents, or friends.

Positive Affirmation

Today I will think happy thoughts. If I want to live in a positive world, I need to start with a positive self.

Kindness Media

For when you need your faith in humanity restored.

The Daily Kindness Digest #1177

Kindness Quote

“Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners.”

Laurence Sterne

Act of Kindness

Make a conscious effort to return money you borrowed from someone today. Whether you can pay it all back or only part of it, don’t allow the fear of embarrassment of time gone by prevent you from doing what you know to be right.

Positive Affirmation

Today I make an extra effort to be a respectful person. You have to give respect to get respect!

Kindness Media

Before you judge someone, watch this.