The Kindness Flash #54

This month’s theme: CHARACTER


LVI Annoucements

Now celebrating a Decade of Kindness, Dance for Kindness, set for Sunday, November 14th, is an annual worldwide FlashMob celebrating World Kindness Day. Organized by Life Vest Inside, a non-profit dedicated to inspiring, empowering and educating people of all backgrounds to lead a life of kindness, Dance for Kindness is a celebration of the common thread that unites us all — kindness! Watch this video and see what it’s all about!

The event has taken place in over 360 cities, spanning across 75 countries all uniting under the banner of kindness to perform a worldwide Dance for Kindness.

Dance for Kindness is organized by enthusiastic volunteers who register as Group Leaders to proudly represent their city and bring a culture of kindness to their neighborhood. Group Leaders receive a unique opportunity to experience our FREE leadership training program, providing them with the tools, skills and resources to bring this event to life and learn how to take any idea they have for positive change and bring it into fruition.

Many Group Leaders have gone on to start their own initiatives, programs, organizations and they share how our program helped them get there.

To APPLY or learn more about what it means to become a Group Leader, check out www.danceforkindness.com/lead

This is one event you don’t want to miss out on! Sure, some may say the world is filled with violence, hatred, hopelessness and war, but together we have the power to unite this world with kindness, hope, trust and love! Join Life Vest Inside and thousands of others around the world this November and become part of the change we all wish to see in the world! To sign up and/or learn more visit www.danceforkindness.com.


Article & Blog of the Month

What Builds Character? – This article explores the essence of character and how we can work to cultivate it over time to become the best version of ourselves.

20 Tips for a Kind & Positive Mindset – Mental health and the importance of having a kind and positive mindset has become one of the most important things to come out of the social media age and the 21st century as a whole. As people have become more aware of how important self-care and positive mental health is, there has been more talk around how to improve your own personal mental health. In this piece, we are going to give you twenty ways to improve your own personal mental health by creating a kind and positive personal mindset.


“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”

Frank Jackson

“Character building begins in our infancy and continues until death.”

Eleanor Roosevelt


Act of Kindness

Choose a mantra that relates to the principles and values you hold important. Write it down and place it somewhere you can see each day. Do your utmost to live your mantra and perfect that aspect of your character over this month. Whether it’s “love others,” or “do the right thing,” living by your principles will make decision making easier and your character more steadfast.


Question of the Month

What character trait do you find to be most important? Share here or in the comments below.


Kindness Media

Songs of the Month

There’s no need for reluctance when it comes to being your authentic self. (Who else are you going to be?)

There are all kinds of kinds. In a society filled with differences, tolerance and acceptance are key. This world works BECAUSE we are different and not all the same. Yes, it may cause conflicts, but think of all the learning opportunities that exist when we open ourselves up.

Imperfections are part of who we are and when we accept ourselves in spite of those imperfections we can finally feel free to be who we are.

Videos of the Month

The manner in which we treat others has less to do with what is accepted, praised, or ridiculed, and more to do with what we know to be true in our heart of hearts.

Jim Rohn talks about Character in this Motivational Speech and makes a comparison between Character and Charisma. Often people confuse character with charisma, but Jim Rohn made it clear in this speech that these two are entirely different concepts using various examples and scenarios.

Building strong character is one of the most difficult, yet most worthwhile pursuits you can have in your life. This video is offering some insights to help you build strong character so you can have a more fulfilling life, and make a positive difference to those around you.

Books of the Month

Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better – Pema Chödrön – In this quick, but intense read, Chödrön supposes how all our lives would be lived differently if we not just accepted our failings as a part of life, but viewed them as those experiences that made us into our best selves.

Rising Strong – Brené Brown – Brené Brown believes that your areas of weakness might actually be your greatest strengths — if you would simply dare to take ownership of them. In Rising Strong Brown writes that the key to growth, wisdom, and hope isn’t to avoid vulnerabilities, but to face them head on with equal parts fear and courage and to ultimately rise strong.

What Do You Stand For? For Teens – Barbara A. Lewis – This book invites teens to explore and practice honesty, kindness, empathy, integrity, tolerance, patience, respect, and more. Quotations and background information set the stage. Dilemmas challenge readers to think about, discuss, and debate positive traits. Activities invite them to explore what they stand for at school, at home, and in their communities.

Old Henry – Joan Blos – This gentle tale explores the idea of citizenship as kids get a look at neighbors who critique a man and his house, and come to change their minds – and their definition – about being a good neighbor.

Have You Filled a Bucket Today? – Carol McCloud – Through the use of a metaphor of an invisible bucket, kids are given examples of how people all over the world can fill their buckets with kindness, respect, and other positive behaviors.


20 Tips for a Kind & Positive Mindset

Mental health and the importance of having a kind and positive mindset has become one of the most important things to come out of the social media age and the 21st century as a whole. As people have become more aware of how important self-care and positive mental health is, there has been more talk around how to improve your own personal mental health. In this piece, we are going to give you twenty ways to improve your own personal mental health by creating a kind and positive personal mindset. We hope these tips will help you improve and maintain your mental wellbeing.

Tip #1: Trust in the Process
A cliché sentiment, yes. But a true one. Everything happens for a reason and it is healthy to remind yourself of this every day. Trust that all things will work out for good eventually and that the process is there for a reason. Trust in the process.

Tip #2: Be Grateful
It is important to take the little opportunities you get to be grateful for what you have. I find that journaling helps me stay grateful every day, but everyone has different ways that they express themselves. Find a way to stay grateful.

Tip #3: Stop Placing Limits on Yourself & Self-Sabotaging
Try to say no to yourself less. Do not put caps on your ability or limits on what you allow yourself to believe. Let go of the beliefs and actions which may have led you to sabotage your own happiness in the past and allow yourself to achieve your full potential by allowing yourself to think beyond what you have achieved or been in the past.

Tip #4: Place Value on the Mistakes You’ve Made & Lessons You’ve Learned
Life comes with lessons, and everybody makes mistakes. Rather than beating yourself up about the mistakes you have made in the past; it is important to value those mistakes and understand that they have made you into the person you are today.

Tip #5: Visualize what you want in Life and for your Future
Think about what you want to achieve in life and how you want your life to look two, five, and ten years from now. Are you on the right path to achieve those things? Harris Honda, a lifestyle journalist at Britstudent and Australia2write, said, “Visualise what you want to achieve and be determined to get there.”

Tip #6: Unplug and Unwind
It is very easy to get caught up in the world of technology and never ‘switch off’. Turn off your phone for a day and unplug your mind from the constant bombardment of information.

Tip #7: Be Kind to Yourself
This comes similarly to allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes. Don’t beat yourself up over silly little things and be kind to yourself when you don’t get things right all the time.

Tip #8: Think Positive
Easier said than done, right? Do your best to redirect negative thoughts and keep your mind on a positive track as much as possible.

Tip #9: Consistently believe that something good is coming
Darren McLain, a psychology writer at Oritingwritings and 1day2write, noted, “This one is similar to thinking positive, but slightly more nuanced. This is about hope. Even when things are all going wrong, try and imagine something good is right around the corner. ”

Tip #10: Take Trips Outside of your Comfort Zone
Try something new, eat a different flavour of ice cream, go to a different restaurant, or travel somewhere new.

Tip #11: Own up to your own life
Take full ownership and responsibility for every part of your life. Don’t ever shift responsibility or blame.

Tip #12: Control the Controllable
There is no point stressing out about things that you have no control over. And similarly, there is no point sitting about feeling sad about a situation that you do have control over if you do nothing about it.

Tip #13: Find the Silver Lining
With every cloud there is a silver lining. You just need to look for it.

Tip #14: Believe you are Ready for More
In order to move forward in your life, you need to remind yourself to actually take the next step. Don’t stay comfortable. Believe you are ready for more in your life.

Tip #15: Look to Conquer Things Head-On
Don’t shy away from challenges in life. It is important to take things on with confidence.

Tip #16: Meditation
Meditation soothes the mind, body, and soul. This will keep your whole being centred.

Tip #17: Pep Yourself Up
Pep talks aren’t for everyone, but keeping a little self-affirmation in your routine, or including a mantra in your mornings will help keep your head up on the down days.

Tip #18: Try out a Growth Mindset
Part of positive thinking is all about seeing growth in all that you do. Understand that everything happens for a reason and see all that happens as a growing process.

Tip #19: Be honest with yourself
Gone are the youthful days of ignorance. Be truthful with yourself about your feelings and emotions; it will do you well in the long run.

Tip #20: Live Well
Happy body, happy mind. Treat your body like a temple. It is meant to be taken care of. Your physical and mental wellbeing are very interconnected, and it is important to take care of all different aspects of yourself at all times to maintain a positive lifestyle.

About the Author:
George J. Newton is a business development manager and online blog writer for Write My Essay and Thesis Writing. He also contributes his work to websites such as Nextcoursework.com.


Testimonial 27

In recognition and support of Mental Health Awareness Week at the Chester County Intermediate Unit (CCIU), we welcomed Kindness Guru Orly Wahba to speak at a virtual community event on May 20, 2021. Her message was powerful and left attendees feeling energized, hopeful and ready to change the world using one simple tool – kindness. On behalf of the CCIU and the event’s attendees, thank you, Orly, for your time and encouragement to not only be kind but to live a life that is full of kindness. We can already feel the energy and inspiration from what our attendees are saying:

“I wanted to say how fantastic Orly’s presentation was. I appreciated the opportunity to listen to her!”

“Orly Wahba was inspirational and affirming. I absolutely loved her presentation!”

“I wanted to take a moment to thank everyone involved in organizing this event, as Orly Wahba presented an amazing, uplifting and inspirational story.”

“Thank you so much. I am beyond touched.”

“I greatly enjoyed Orly's presentation. She is full of positive energy and is inspirational. I loved her message, ‘just be you.’ She’s a winner!”

Chester County Intermediate Unit



The Kindness Flash #53

This month’s theme: MINDFULNESS


Articles of the Month

Mindful Awareness Practices – Emerging research shows that the practice of mindfulness can help both children and adults manage and prevent prolonged stress, respond to anxiety, and respond to an array of emotions to make constructive choices about personal behavior and evaluate the benefits and consequences of various actions for personal, social, and collective well-being.

Does Mindfulness Meditation Really Make You Kinder? – As mindfulness continues being promoted as a way to boost our personal well-being, it’s refreshing to know that it may just be helping us create a more compassionate society, too.

How to Teach Empathy to High School Students by Erica Sunarjo – People usually underestimate the importance of empathy for happy living. With empathy and emotional intelligence, you will manage to perceive people better and make them happy this way. Their happiness will reflect on your mood as well.

According to American Psychological Association, the rise of narcissism and the decline of empathy are visible among young adults. In this case, we do not have the right to mind our own business all the time. Young adults need someone who will guide them and explain why empathy is an essential soft skill and how it will influence their lives. Read More >>


“Do every act of your life as though it were the very last act of your life.”

Marcus Aurelius

“This is the real secret of life — to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.”

Alan Watts

“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.”

Thich Nhat Hanh


Act of Kindness

Live in the moment. Try to intentionally bring an open, accepting and discerning attention to everything you do. Find joy in simple pleasures.


Question of the Month

How can mindfulness help us practice kindness? Share here or in the comments below.


Kindness Media

Photo of the Month

What does this picture make you feel and why? Share your thoughts.

Songs of the Month

In this song Jason Mraz reminds us to live in the moments that make life worth living. Sometimes we need to get out of our own way so that we can enjoy life.

Videos of the Month

How do we change? In this pioneering talk, Dr. Shauna Shapiro draws on modern neuroscience and ancient wisdom to demonstrate how mindfulness can help us make positive changes in our brains and our lives.

This video explains what everyday mindfulness is, and how being aware of what is going on around you and inside of you can help make life more enjoyable and less stressful.

Podcast of the Month

The only way you are going to be able to make it through is to really know your why and to recognize that if other people are out there discouraging you, it does not mean that they don’t believe in you it just means they don’t believe enough in themselves. If they don’t believe in themselves, how can they possibly believe in you? So that’s a key.

Books of the Month

Make Peace with Your Mind: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Free You from Your Inner Critic – Mark Coleman – Everyone has an inner critic in their mind that reminds them that they are never quite “good enough.” Because of these thoughts, people often second-guess their actions and doubt their value as people. This voice inside everyone's head feels overpowering, but people can learn to manage it.

The Now Effect: How a Mindful Moment Can Change the Rest of Your Life – Elisha Goldstein Ph.D. – The advice in this book is to make deep, permanent life changes that allow the reader to be present in their lives and connect with the positive things that matter. This book essentially teaches how the present moment can change the rest of one's life.

Wherever You Go, There You Are – Jon Kabat-Zinn – Mindfulness is all about waking up to the world around you and living in peace and harmony with oneself. In this book, Jon Kabat-Zinn provides chapter-by-chapter glimpses into the many different facets of mindfulness. It’s a practice about letting go, being non-judgmental, kind, and embracing the present moment.

What Does It Mean to Be Present? – Rana DiOrio – This refreshing, vibrant picture book engages all of the senses to demonstrate the myriad of ways a child can seize the moment. The story sparks meaningful discussions about the important gift of appreciation, giving children and adults alike the opportunity to live more fully and richly.

The Three Questions – Jon J. Muth – A beautifully written and illustrated picture book that emphasizes that the best time to do things is now, the most important one is the one you’re with, and the right thing to do is to do good for the one you’re with. It’s a simple but powerful message that teaches readers that the most precious gift we can offer someone is our undivided attention.

Happy: A Children's Book of Mindfulness – Nicola Edwards – The perfect soothing read for quiet time, Happy gently encourages young readers to explore their emotions and the beautiful world around them. This poetic journey to a place of happiness and calm will inspire and empower your child to enjoy the practice of mindfulness.


How to Teach Empathy to High School Students

People usually underestimate the importance of empathy for happy living. With empathy and emotional intelligence, you will manage to perceive people better and make them happy this way. Their happiness will reflect on your mood as well.

According to American Psychological Association, the rise of narcissism and the decline of empathy are visible among young adults. In this case, we do not have the right to mind our own business all the time. Young adults need someone who will guide them and explain why empathy is an essential soft skill and how it will influence their lives.

Still, you won’t positively impact their behavior saying “You need to be empathetic”. Working with high school kids requires a different approach. All you have to do is to use a few methods that will help you reach your goal. Let’s find them out together!

Be The Example of Empathy!

You can’t motivate anyone else if you are not ready to change yourself! It doesn’t matter if you are a parent, grandparent, teacher, or anyone else. There is a big chance you’re a role model for those kids you want to cultivate your ideas. So, you need to get rid of your bad habits and features and be an example that young adults can follow.

We all want to feel important in some cases, don’t we? Sometimes, we’re inclined to a short fuse, or we tend to use sarcasm more than we should. Such a behavior negatively affects our surroundings, but we should work hard to overcome it. Be gentle, kind, and empathetic to people and show them that their feelings matter.

Allow Students to Share Their Feelings

Don’t try to be too annoying here. Some kids aren’t ready to talk about how they feel. Instead, allow them to write about their feelings. For instance, ask them to write an essay and give them enough time to put all the emotions on a piece of paper.

Marie Fincher, an editor, and proofreader at SupremeDissertations constantly improves the quality of texts that kids write. In one of his interviews, he said, “You can’t even imagine how emotional high-school students are. Their writing skills are maybe not at the highest level, but the emotions they share are too strong. While reading their essays, you can see that they need someone who would understand them. However, if they can’t find that person, they may lose a sense of empathy for the rest of the world. That is the method they use to fight against their problems and weaknesses.

Suggest All the Methods They Can Use

You can sometimes talk for 2 hours in a row. However, if a high-school kid decided not to listen to your pieces of advice, you can’t fight against that. Instead of spending hours talking and explaining, suggest to your students some methods that will help them see people’s feelings.

For instance, they can read a book or watch a movie that describes a life of a person that didn’t get the necessary kindness and understanding from others. Music is also an entertaining way to perceive the emotions of others and try to connect them with your own.

In the end, why don’t you write your own story? There has to be a moment when you felt a lack of empathy in your life. Use TrustMyPaper or any other writing services to boost the quality of your story. Kids won’t read it if the storyline is too confusing for them. However, if you share your thoughts and emotions in the right way, they will at least remember your pieces of advice! When the right moment comes, they will apply them and show empathy to people that truly deserve it!

Explain to Them that Personal Achievement Mustn’t Be More Important Than Empathy

You need to explain to kids that there is a big difference between ambitions and selfishness. It is okay if they want to become the best doctors, lawyers, athletes, or anything else. However, reaching their goals must not hurt the surrounding people.

Explain to high-school children that they sometimes need to sacrifice their success. They need to know that being self-focused is not going to make them happy. They may become to improve their career or invest a lot of money. However, what will money mean to them if they end up alone surrounded by people that don’t care about them? Whatever they want to do, it needs to be valuable. If the path to success hurts the feelings of many, that means they are doing something wrong.

Final Thought

Empathy is a reflection! Whenever you show it to someone, you can be sure that you will get it when you need it the most. Every grown-up is a role model, but most of them are not even aware of that. If you want to teach empathy to high school students, remain patient until you reach your goal. More precisely, show understanding for their bad behavior and try to inspire them by showing empathy with the methods we highlighted in this article

Erica Sunarjo is a professional writer, translator, and editor with a Master’s degree in Marketing and Social Media. She writes thought-provoking articles for publications in a variety of media. Erica is always dedicated to learning new things. She actively visits conferences and takes online classes to keep her mind open to innovative ideas.