The Kindness Flash #67

This month’s theme: COMMITMENT


Articles of the Month

This is the Best Way to Stick to Your Goals – Regardless of what you’re trying to achieve, the key is to find a way to consistently show up and do the work.

How To Commit To Your New Year’s Resolution – You might not consider yourself someone who struggles with commitment if you’re in a stable relationship, but commitment issues go beyond dating. Many people struggle to form commitment in other areas of their lives, such as diet, exercise, and self-care.


“Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision, and gives us the right stuff to turn our dream into reality.”

James Womack

“Whatever I have tried to do in life, I have tried with all my heart to do it well; whatever I have devoted myself to, I have devoted myself to completely.”

Charles Dickens

“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”

Dale Carnegie


Act of Kindness

Make NO excuses: once you make a commitment, make yourself stronger than your excuses.


Question of the Month

How do you stay committed to your goals or promises? Share your thoughts.


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Photo of the Month

What does this picture make you feel and why? Share your thoughts!

Songs of the Month

Kendrick Lamar raps about how incredible it feels to see his dreams realized, but warns he needs to keep his head on straight and keep going.

This song encourages us to not waste any more time pursuing things that don’t bring us closer to our dreams.

If we keep hanging out on the sidelines rather than being fully immersed in the realization of our dreams, we will miss out on the opportunity for lasting happiness and the chance to make a difference.

Videos of the Month

Have you ever had good intentions to carry out a task or idea, but yet something always stopped you from making it to completion? Jonathan Jones shows you exactly what it’ll take to shift that focus and take action towards these ideals.

“Commitment” isn’t something we often discuss. Despite the lack of attention paid to it, where we choose to commit ourselves creates the foundation and structure of our lives.

Books of the Month

The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness – Jeff Olson – What you do today matters. What you do every day matters more. The key to successfully achieving your goals is to take small, simple actions and compound them over time.

The Achievement Habit: Stop Wishing, Start Doing, and Take Command of Your Life – Bernard Roth – Believe you are a doer and achiever in order to become one. Be open to learning from your own experience and from those around you. Ignore distractions that prevent you from achieving your goals.

Goals!: How to Get Everything You Want — Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible – Brian Tracy – The author emphasizes self-discipline and persistence as two keys to achieving your goals. He also encourages readers to clearly establish their goals: Write them down and be specific. Make sure you can easily explain your goal to someone else, Brian says, and know exactly when you have achieved it.

Flight School – Lita Judge – This is an adorable story about a penguin who is determined to fly. It’s a great way to begin the conversation on setting realistic goals.

The Magical Yet – Angela DiTerlizzi – This one is great to read after students have set goals. Just as the title implies, this book is all about perseverance and not giving up on goals!

The Most Magnificent Thing – Ashley Spires – It’s a great book for planning steps to reach one’s goal and for revising those steps when they’re not working.


The Kindness Flash #66

This month’s theme: PURPOSE


Articles of the Month

We Can Have More Than One Purpose In Life – There really is no set formula when it comes to finding your purpose. Your life is giving you clues all the time for the purpose you were put on our wonderful planet, all you have to do is find it and go after it like your life depends on it, because it does.

Life purpose: The inspiration you need to find your drive – You can’t discover the meaning of life if you never try new things. Don’t be afraid to shake things up and get out of your routine. By doing so, you’ll be committing to a goal that will fill your future with meaning and happiness — and that’s something to be proud of.


“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.”

Fyodor Dostoyevsky

If you have a strong purpose in life, you don’t have to be pushed. Your passion will drive you there.

Roy T. Bennett


Act of Kindness

Visualize what a good life would look like for you. Would you want to help others? Live your life in another place? Have another career? Then, think about realistic ways you would achieve those ideas. Connect them to your core values and think about the lifestyle you’d live with these in mind.


Question of the Month

What gives meaning to your life? Share your thoughts.


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Photo of the Month

How does this picture represent purpose? Share your thoughts!

Songs of the Month

Your hero’s journey is an unwritten adventure story. All you have to do is say YES when the Call to Adventure arrives.

Through your journey, the laws of physics and culture will threaten to drag you down, but if you listen to the quiet still voice within, you’ll likely hear the call of something larger drawing you into sacred service. You may have to break some rules, but if you can muster up the moxie to do so, magic is likely to follow.

Your calling doesn’t have to be grand. You don’t have to write a book, give a TED Talk, or start a nonprofit — it’s enough to simply choose to practice love and compassion in the world.

Videos of the Month

Finding your purpose can sometimes take a while, but when you have the right person to help you realize what’s in you, you’ll see it was right in front of you all along!

The Japanese invented a philosophy named Ikigai, which stands for ‘reason for being’, Ikigai can help us to determine what it is, that we want to wake up for in the morning.

Books of the Month

Man’s Search for Meaning – Viktor E. Frankl – The human is a pleasure-seeking creature, but you’ll never find your passion and purpose by allowing pleasure to determine the course of your life. “Man’s Search for Meaning” is not only a book on how to find your life’s purpose but also a book on how to overcome adversity, hardship, and feel free no matter the circumstances of your life.

The Last Lecture – Randy Pausch, Jeffrey Zaslow – What would you do with your life if you knew when it would end? Would you change your life for the better? Would you start living and seizing every moment? Trivial things surround us; and sometimes, we lose valuable time with those things without realizing that life, no matter how long it is, always feels too short.

The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself – Michael A. Singer – The road to finding your passion and purpose must begin by knowing yourself better. Recognizing and appreciating who you are: first, makes you feel you are enough, and second, allows you to take advantage of who you are.

Brave – Svetlana Chmakova – Jensen is living a daily nightmare of being bullied in middle school. In his head, he is the hero that rules the day when the bullying happens, but, in reality, he doesn’t do anything when mean kids call him fat, ugly, and dumb. Many kids can relate to the events that occur in this charming and optimistic graphic novel where (spoiler alert) the good guy prevails.

Thomas Discovers The Purpose Of Life – Nerissa Marie – A positive inspirational story encouraging your child to live a confident happy life. Thomas is a remarkable boy who questions the meaning of life. This leads him on a journey of self-discovery, where he makes new friends and discovers his life purpose.

Thelma the Unicorn – Aaron Blabey – Thelma, a farm horse, has one passionate dream: she wants to be a unicorn. So when she gets a chance to be one, she goes for it with enthusiasm and commitment. Unfortunately, what she soon learns is that being a unicorn isn’t what she thought it would be.


The Kindness Flash #65

This month’s theme: ADAPTABILITY


Articles of the Month

Why Adaptability is Important in Helping You Manage Change – There are times we experience unexpected unpleasant situations in life. Being adaptable ensures you stay afloat when the adversities of life try to sink you down. Instead of running away from reality, you embrace it and flow with it.

How to Embrace Change in Your Life – Everything around us is constantly changing, whether we perceive it or not. Society changes, technology evolves further every day; the world is always in flux, but what’s most important is that we ourselves undergo change, too. But despite this knowledge, one of the most difficult things human beings learn during their life is how to embrace change.


“The wise adapt themselves to circumstances, as water molds itself to the pitcher.”

Chinese Proverb

“Adaptability is not imitation. It means power of resistance and assimilation.”

Mahatma Gandhi

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”

Lao Tzu


Act of Kindness

Celebrate growth. Through each and every change, you are making progress. Isn’t this inspiring?! Pat yourself on the back, call a friend, journal, make a social media post, buy yourself a donut, or find another way to honor your growth.


Question of the Month

How do you embrace change positively? Share your thoughts.


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Photo of the Month

What does this picture make you feel and why? Share your thoughts!

Songs of the Month

The song is about embracing it when you need a change. Even if something doesn’t seem possible, it doesn’t mean you don’t stand a chance.

The song reminds us that we still aren’t free and that we need to embrace change and deal with the fact that whether people want it or not, it’s coming, and all we can do is handle the situation presented to us.

This song shows that you can help people change the world no matter how small the gesture is. By embracing change, you can inspire others to want to change the world as well.

Videos of the Month

Change can be transforming, even if it feels devastating. This talk helps people everywhere manage crises and difficult moments.

Faced with accelerating change around us, how do we improve our ability to adapt? Seasoned transformation consultant and executive-level coach Jennifer Jones introduces us to the Adaptability Equation; a formula for high performance through change.

Books of the Month

Adaptability: The Art of Winning in an Age of Uncertainty – Max McKeown – This book harnesses the essence of human survival – the ability to adapt – to help people succeed in business and all other aspects of life.

AdaptAbility: How to Survive Change You Didn't Ask For – M.J. Ryan – “Change is hard,” we say, and it is even harder when change is thrust upon us. In today’s tough times, we may be forced to reinvent our career or downsize our lives; at any point in life, we may lose a love or a dream. Our first reaction to change we didn’t ask for may be to rail against fate. But what if we could see past today’s turmoil and spot the opportunities that lie within unasked-for change? That is the promise of AdaptAbility, bestselling author and executive coach M. J. Ryan’s paradigm-shifting new book on not merely surviving but thriving when change is required.

Live Kind, Be Happy – Celeste DiMilla – We all know that being kind can improve other people’s lives in countless ways. But did you know that when you are generous and thoughtful, you begin achieving happiness in your own life and create a “ripple effect” that inspires the world to be nicer? Live Kind, Be Happy illuminates how your personal commitment to kindness will improve every aspect of your life and ultimately be world-changing.

Goodbye, Friend! Hello, Friend! – Cori Doerrfeld – When a friend moves away, it can feel like nothing but goodbyes. This sweet book shows children that while a move does mean goodbyes, it can mean hellos, too!

The Day You Begin – Jacqueline Woodson – This gorgeous book showcases the fears that accompany a new situation and the amazing things that can come from stepping into the unknown.

Little Tree – Loren Long – Little Tree loves his life as a young tree in the forest. He adores his beautiful leaves so much that he refuses to let go of them when fall comes. But because he refuses to accept the changing seasons, he's unable to grow. Once he's ready to let go of his leaves, he's finally able to progress.


The Kindness Flash #64

This month’s theme: HONOR


Articles of the Month

Best Kindness Lessons For Social Awareness – Spreading kindness defines being friendly, generous, and concerned. It is cardinal to make any positive effort, as it brings the energy back and motivates. If we practice this act of kindness in our daily life, we’ll see this world would turn out to be a completely different place. How do we change society with little acts of kindness? Read More >>

Honor Yourself: Live with Integrity – Honor your word. Every time you make a promise, you put your honor and integrity on the line. Keeping that promise should be as important to you as it is to the recipient.

Honor Your Values — But Not Too Much – It’s healthy to honor your values in a balanced way because it leads to alignment and fulfillment. However, if you over-attach to a value and find yourself getting caught up in distressing thoughts, negative emotions, or physical sensations like tension, take a few moments to breathe and balance your mind and emotions to access a more objective perspective and solution to the problem.


“It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is.”

Hermann Hesse

“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.”

Socrates

“A man of honor should never forget what he is because he sees what others are.”

Baltasar Gracian


Act of Kindness

Honor your word. Every time you make a promise, you put your honor and integrity on the line. Keeping that promise should be as important to you as it is to the recipient.


Question of the Month

How do you earn honor in life? Share your thoughts.


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Photo of the Month

What does this picture make you feel and why? Share your thoughts!

Songs of the Month

An anthem of defiance and determination, standing up for what you believe in despite the odds.

A powerful anthem about the importance of integrity. In a world where it can be all too easy to give in to temptation and shortcuts, the song is a reminder of the importance of staying true to oneself.

The song is an inspiring reminder that we all have the power to overcome adversity if we stay true to our values.

Videos of the Month

Ted says his father, a great believer in honor and personal integrity, expected Ted to work a full-time job and pay rent out of his $2 per week salary. Today, this 79-year-old entrepreneur continues to credit his father for teaching him good business ethics.

We all want to be happy. We all want to be successful. Live honorably and those things become possible for you.

Books of the Month

Living with Dignity, Honor and Respect: How to Make Powerful Choices in Your Life – Heidi Stingl Adams – This book shares stories and lessons Heidi learned to still the voices of blame, shame, doubt, and guilt that many people have as constant companions throughout their lives. Every person on this earth must learn to make powerful choices every day, particularly to live in confidence and be a true steward for the environment and people around them.

Self Respect: Honor Yourself By Making Good Choices In Your Life – Kay A. Saunders – It provides a back-to-basics approach to teaching the social skills necessary for reaching success. The reader explores the topic of respect as it relates to appreciation, empathy, tolerance, courtesy and responsibility.

Why Honor Matters – Tamler Sommers – Sommers shows how honor can help us address some of society’s most challenging problems, including education, policing, and mass incarceration. Counterintuitive and provocative, Why Honor Matters makes a convincing case for honor as a cornerstone of our modern society.

The Saddest Dragon – Joshua Eastman – Princess Adelaide has found a dragon! But this dragon is not only different from all other dragons, he’s pretty sad about it, too. Can our brave and kind Princess Adelaide find a magically brilliant way to save The Saddest Dragon? Princess Adelaide solves the problem while teaching that being like everyone else isn’t the answer. Rather, honoring everyone’s uniqueness is what brings happiness.

One – Kathryn Otoshi – One tells the story of blobs of color, which is much more endearing than you would think. Red bullies Blue and makes him feel bad for being himself. When the other colors don’t speak up against Red, Red gets more and more powerful. One tells the story of how just one brave person can be the change needed to stand up to a bully.

If Everybody Did – Jo Ann Stover – This book poses the question – what would happen if everybody broke the rules? Making a little mess doesn’t seem like a big deal if one person does it, but if everyone made a little mess the whole world would be messy! The book helps kids understand the importance of following the rules when you are part of a bigger community, while being silly and fun!


Best Kindness Lessons For Social Awareness

Spreading kindness defines being friendly, generous, and concerned. It is cardinal to make any positive effort, as it brings the energy back and motivates. If we practice this act of kindness in our daily life, we’ll see this world would turn out to be a completely different place.

It is helpful for both you and the receiver of your kindness. It doubles when you share it. Recent studies suggest giving and receiving happiness improves your health. According to a survey on the state of China conducted by Ipsos, 26 percent of respondents said being forgiven for something gives them great happiness. And what’s better than forgiving someone as an act of kindness?

Small acts of kindness can have huge social impacts, which can create great awareness among the people of a community.

Little Ways To Bring Kindness Into Your Everyday Life
How do we change society with little acts of kindness?

Let’s have a look at some of the best and the most simple ways to spread kindness. By keeping them in consideration, you can spread kindness and put a big smile on many faces!
1. Express Your Empathy
Spreading kindness is a simple way, and it takes a few seconds to make someone’s day. A simple way is to text a friend you have not spoken to for a long time. Another way is to send a kind comment on your neighbor or friend’s post and leave a kind gesture.

Always tell your loved ones why you are thankful to them. Make a list and send it to close ones, saying, “You are everything to me.”, “You mean a lot to me.”, or “I am with you.” is another way to express empathy.

2. Listen For The Feelings Behind The Word
Don’t judge, be an active listener. Emotions aren’t only the thing you understand. Show them your attention and make them feel you are concerned. Sometimes advice isn’t needed; they just want to be heard.

Give people your full attention without judging. For example, if someone is passing through a bad patch with the job, ask them the reason? Hug them. Make it a practice to notice what’s going on. This could become an active way of spreading kindness.

3. Leave A Kind Note
Sometimes, all you need is a kind comment, which can make your day when you are feeling low. Words of encouragement pay off! Take a paper and write some uplifting messages like, you are great, have a nice day, good morning, and these can be placed at a bus stop, inside a library, or a park. This simple effort can make someone’s day for sure.

Compliment a stranger that you are looking good, or wish them good luck when they go for the job. Sometimes a simple act of encouragement boosts someone’s mood, which they need to carry through the day.

4. Do A Small Act Of Kindness
When your neighbor gets sick, or your friend faces a hard time, go and think about what to do. Send them food, help them with cleaning affairs, and bring flowers for them. Get involved in these projects, and ask them if they need anything. Share your wealth to help them, and it can
change a lot of things.

You can even share your ideas and knowledge with others that can be helpful for them. For example, if you notice someone facing difficulties with their studies. And they have to submit an assignment with a very close deadline. Tell them Dissertation Assistance UK can make it easy
for them. It is one of the ways where you can make something nice to them and make them feel better.

5. Community Clean Up
Enjoy the environment by cleaning up a community. From cleaning your house to the sidewall or roads of your area, it is a great way to show your care towards society. If you see any of the wrappers or juice boxes left in the park, throw them in the dustbin. Even if someone drops it by mistake, take a step out to pick it up.

Also, help your friends to clean their houses and office colleagues to organize their desks. This gives everyone a way to spread kindness.

6. Support Others By Sending Donations
You can bring a change with your charitable giving. See an abundance of things around you and share with others. Donating items from your home or leftover food is a great way to give back to the local community!

If you want to support a resident of the society or those who are having a hard time, shelter them or give them clothes or shoes. Another way is to find an online website which accepts the used things to support the needy ones to have a happy life.

Conclusion
There are many things you can do to spread kindness. World Kindness Day is celebrated every year. However, spreading kindness does not require a holiday. It is something we can do every day to bring a change without expecting anything in return. This day reminds us to make kindness a norm in daily life and give a chance to get involved in spreading social awareness.

Author Bio
Claudia Jeffrey is currently working as a Senior Editor at CrowdWriter.com. She loves to share her knowledge and ideas with others. Claudia often blogs at Word Count Jet. She loves to travel and explore new places and different cultures on the earth.


The Kindness Flash #63

This month’s theme: DETERMINATION


Reflections

Thoughts from Our Founder“Success begins with a fellow’s will – it’s all in a state of mind.”
I’ll never forget 8 year old Orly walking into school on my first day of third grade. Learning wasn’t my strong suit and so school wasn’t something I was particularly excited about. On top of that my parents were told that I needed to be placed in the Resource Room, a much smaller setting for students that had learning difficulties. Feeling inadequate as it is, being in Resource Room made me feel stupid – made me feel like a failure. Read More >>


Articles of the Month

10 of the Best Ways for Kids to be Kind to Animals – Kindness is a lovely quality to have in all walks of life. This extends beyond showing kindness to people. Kindness to animals is equally important and a value that can and should be instilled in children. Showing kindness to animals will earn children the respect, love and trust of an animal which can be nurtured for years to come. Check out these 10 ways to show kindness to animals.


“We must remember that one determined person can make a significant difference, and that a small group of determined people can change the course of history.”

Sonia Johnson

“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”

Michael Jordan

“Let us not be content to wait and see what will happen, but give us the determination to make the right things happen.”

Horace Mann


Act of Kindness

Work hard. Persevere. Be flexible. Knowing and valuing yourself, setting goals and planning help build important foundations, but action is required to make your dreams come true. To take control of your life, it is necessary to choose and take appropriate action. Take charge. Move forward.


Question of the Month

What is your determination in life? Share your thoughts.


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Photo of the Month

How does this picture represent determination? Share your thoughts!

Songs of the Month

If you need a boost of encouragement when your dreams feel out of reach, just turn on “The Climb” by Miley Cyrus. Cyrus reminds us that we just, “Gotta be strong, just keep pushin’ on.”

This song urges us to embrace our fear and anxiety in order to throw them away. It teaches us to keep going, even when things get tough.

This song is about persevering in the face of defeat in order to achieve one’s goals. To attain your dream, you should strive to achieve and discover greatness within yourself. Whatever you choose to do, do it well.

Videos of the Month

An auto mechanic fulfills his dream to practice medicine.

Managers who are engaged in servant leadership and have philanthropic responsibilities are more fulfilled, and use problems-solving skills in civic space to add value for the organization.

Books of the Month

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success – Carol S. Dweck – This book talks about the research of the importance of having a growth mindset for personal development as a key to success in doing anything in life. Those who think the key to success is to do the necessary work are observed to be more successful than those who don’t.

No Excuses: The Power of Self-Discipline – Brian Tracy – The main idea of the book is that talent and luck are wonderful, but they will not get you as far as self-discipline will. No Excuses! covers different areas of life, diving into different components and explaining how you can be more disciplined.

The Willpower Instinct – Kelly McGonigal – The Willpower Instinct will be helpful for anyone who is interested in learning how to achieve their goals more effectively. The author breaks down a large body of scientific research and shows that awareness of the limits of willpower is crucial to our ability to exercise true self-control.

The Curious Garden – Peter Brown – Liam’s curiosity leads him to explore an elevated train track. He discovers dying flowers and begins to nurture them. His dedication pays off when the flowers grow and start spreading over the city.

A Dance Like Starlight: One Ballerina’s Dream – Kristy Dempsey – In Harlem, a young girl is inspired by the first African-American prima ballerina, Janet Collins, to make her own dreams come true.

Emmanuel’s Dream: The True Story of Emmanuel Ofosu Yeboah – Laurie Ann Thompson – People dismissed Emmanuel because of his deformed leg, but his mother’s belief gave him the courage and determination to be himself. As he got older he became a cyclist, eventually cycling 400 miles across Ghana to promote the message that disability is not inability.


10 of the Best Ways for Kids to be Kind to Animals

Kindness is a lovely quality to have in all walks of life. This extends beyond showing kindness to people. Kindness to animals is equally important and a value that can and should be instilled in children. Showing kindness to animals will earn children the respect, love and trust of an animal which can be nurtured for years to come.

Check out these 10 ways to show kindness to animals.

Tip 1: Go Out in the Wild
Showing children where animals actually live, not a zoo, will give them a sense of responsibility and understanding of how to behave around certain animals. Observing squirrels in a park will teach so much about keeping a suitable distance and not making sudden movements to scare the animal.

Tip 2: Read and Share
It is not always possible to see animals in the wild, but reading books to learn and understand is a pretty good substitute. Choosing a broad range of books will help children to look beyond a simple habitat and diet system. How animals socialize in groups can be a fascinating read.

Tip 3: Animal Shelters
Helping children to understand what can go wrong for animals is a good way to instill kindness. Sharing how some animals are badly treated can be a real eye-opener and is a real-world example of cruelty that is not necessary. Be prepared to talk about what they see.

Tip 4: Become an Owner
What better way to learn about being kind than to actually own an animal? Choosing a pet carefully is the key here as the point is that your child looks after them and builds a bond with them. Give your child specific responsibilities such as providing clean drinking water or feeding time in the morning. This gives them a purpose in the animal’s life.

Tip 5: Environment
It is not just direct kindness that children need to be aware of. Their actions on a larger scale also show kindness to animals. Not littering and disposing of rubbish correctly also show kindness towards animals, especially those in the wild.

Tip 6: Green Fingers
Creating a garden that encourages wildlife to visit is a great way to show kindness towards animals. Creating this together as a family adds value to the process and shows that you are part of the kindness drive too. For example, choose flowers that encourage bees or provide bird-friendly trees to encourage nesting. These simple steps display immense kindness to a huge number of animals.

Tip 7: Get Baking
This idea is based on a traditional cake sale but with an animal twist. Reading about and then creating animal-friendly treats is a lovely gesture in the neighborhood. Yes, you could sell these; but donating them to your local shelter is far more rewarding and so much kinder, too.

Tip 8: Toys
This is a very similar idea to Tip 7 but is more practical. Instead of baking treats, you would be making toys for pets. Research suitable ideas and then get your creative side working. Again, these could be sold or donated to a local animal charity. The choice is yours, but kindness should be your goal.

Tip 9: Spot Kind People
This one takes the focus away from the animal and directs it more onto the person being kind. A lovely gesture would be a simple thank you to someone who is being kind towards animals. Often, people are kind because it is the right thing to do, and they don’t seek recognition for it. A simple thank you is all they want, and you can be the person to deliver it. Highlighting this with your child is key as you will be pointing out exactly what this person has done that is so kind.

Tip 10: Eyes not Hands
This really applies when out in nature on a walk. If animals are spotted, the kindest thing to do is watch and keep your distance. Instilling the clear message of look with your eyes, not your hands is very clear here. This shows kindness towards the animals and a thoughtful approach to nature.

It is one thing to know what kindness is. Acting on it and showing it is a very different proposition. By instilling kindness towards animals in children, there is a better chance of animals being looked after in the future.

Madeline Miller is a freelance writer at Essay Roo and Assignment Writing Service. She writes thought provoking articles about education and is a regular blogger at Big Assignments.


Reflections on Determination

“Success begins with a fellow’s will – it’s all in a state of mind.”

I’ll never forget 8 year old Orly walking into school on my first day of third grade. Learning wasn’t my strong suit and so school wasn’t something I was particularly excited about. On top of that my parents were told that I needed to be placed in the Resource Room, a much smaller setting for students that had learning difficulties. Feeling inadequate as it is, being in Resource Room made me feel stupid – made me feel like a failure.

One day the Resource Room teacher walked into class and she had an assignment for us. She handed out a Poem and asked us to decorate it. So there I was, an 8 year old kid. I took the poem, glued it to a piece of pink construction paper, added a bit of sparkles and doodles. She read the poem to us and it spoke to me in a deep and impactful way. I began to read the poem day after day, time after time – until I committed it to memory. Little did I know that this poem would empower me and instill within me a sense of determination that would take me through some challenging circumstances ahead.

30 years and change later, I still remember that poem and recall the feelings I felt when I first read it.

“If you think you can’t do it – YOU CAN’T
If you think you dare not – YOU DON’T
If you’d like to win but think you can’t – it’s almost a cinch YOU WON’T
If you think you’ll lose – YOU LOST
For out in this world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will
It’s all in a state of mind.

Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger or faster man
For sooner or later the man who wins is the one who thinks he can.” ~Walter D Wintle

Success stems from the power of your conviction to will it so – your determination to see it through – to never give up, to never back down. Above all, to quiet the voices in your head – the voices in the world telling you YOU CAN’T.

Those voices, those deterrents of progress can only have power if you let them. Will you always succeed just because you try? Of course not! But success isn’t about whether you hit your goal, but rather about whether you were determined enough to step up to the plate. After all, our failures, in hindsight, are catalysts for our greatest successes. A determined person will have many failures under their belt but those failures don’t deter them, they spur them on, they breed creativity, ingenuity and help them think outside the box.

That poem didn’t get me through the hard times, that poem ignited that determination that was there within me all along to see those hard times as stops along my journey instead of seeing them as the final destination.

Do I always succeed in being determined? No, of course not. I’m human. We all are. And it is human to have ups and downs, highs and lows, moments of strength and moments of weakness. But being determined removes our need for an all or nothing mindset. It whispers in our ear to try again, even when we find ourselves dropping to all time low levels of energy, enthusiasm and strength.

So my message to you, as well as to myself is to remember that when we find ourselves stuck and feel as though there’s no chance we can get out of the funk we’re in, look at yourself in the mirror and remember that the person staring back at you is stronger than you think and braver than you can believe.

Ask yourself, what can you learn from your current position? How can you adjust? And then pivot and try again.

If you don’t bet on you, then you’ll find no one will bet on you either. Don’t give up – the world needs you to shine. Just remember, you’re a shining light even if you find yourself lost in the darkness. As we know the sun will regardless of the darkness of night that precedes it.


The Kindness Flash #62

This month’s theme: VISION


Articles of the Month

7 Steps to Turn Your Vision into Action – While vision boards and vision exercises help us unconsciously align our activities to achieve our goals, success also takes purposeful seven (plus) things you can do to move vision from the realm of imagination to reality.

Turning Vision into Reality – You must communicate your vision in such a way that it inspires excitement that leads to action. It is the job of an authentic leader to communicate their vision in such a way that people can translate it into reality.


“Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.”

Joel A. Barker

“You’ve got to think about big things while you’re doing small things so that all the small things go in the right direction.”

Alvin Toffler

“In order to carry out a positive action, we must develop a positive vision.”

Dalai Lama


Act of Kindness

It takes courage to create a vision and even more courage to act on it. Ruthless commitment is required. But compassion is also required, because when you take risks, mistakes will happen, by yourself and others. Rather than asking, “who is to blame?” ask “what can we learn?” Learn from mistakes and keep moving forward.


Question of the Month

What’s the coolest thing you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t done? Share here or in the comments below.


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Photo of the Month

Share one piece of advice on how you successfully move from your current reality to your desired future. Share your thoughts.

Songs of the Month

A song about acceptance, tolerance, and celebrating differences.

This song is urging people to love one another, and questioning why so much hate exists in the world, this song remains relevant more than one decade later, a pertinent reminder that we should extend love to people of all races and religions.

This song about equality is an anthem that has inspired so many to fight for peace and love. Lennon sings about his belief that we are all one people and that we do not have to be divided by borders or religions.

Videos of the Month

Cole Blakeway, a messy ten-year-old, teaches us the value of celebrating differences as he describes his beautiful friendship with Steven, a 44-year-old man with Autism.

An inspiring video about love and tolerance

A deaf girl comes across a boy who is paralyzed from the waist-down, but neither of them know about each other’s differences.

Books of the Month

Far from the Tree – Laurie Calkhoven – Far from the Tree explores how people who love each other must struggle to accept each other—a theme in every family’s life.

Living The Five Skills of Tolerance – Scott Warrick – This book does not focus on what makes us all different. It focuses on what we all have in common and how we all need to treat each other on an individual basis as human beings. The Five Skills of Tolerance form the roadmap that helps US ALL evolve into 21st century human beings and build a better world.

The Psychology of Tolerance in Times of Uncertainty – Malgorzata Kossowska – This unique book lays out the motivational basis for tolerance, the most important underlying factor that shapes people’s social attitudes and determines our ability to get along with others.

One of These Is Not Like the Others – Barney Saltzberg – Even though one of these is not like the others, that’s just fine with these friends…because it’s how they rock and roll. Cute illustrations show friend groups with one different-looking friend.

We’re Different, We’re the Same – Bobbi Kates – Noses look different but they’re the same, too, because they breathe and sniff. Sesame Street characters show kids that no matter how things look on the outside, we’re also the same on the inside.

Just Like Brothers – Elizabeth Baguley – Lush illustrations and lyrical text tell the redemptive story of two different creatures who come together in friendship despite warnings from their parents. Because sometimes people judge negatively when someone is different.


School Testimonial 4

"Dance for Kindness is the incontestable proof that Kindness is our common denominator and the solution for a happy future for mankind."

Constantin Păun, DFK Group Leader, Transilvania Brasov, Romania


School Testimonial 3

"I can't put into words the impact DFK has had on me. This is what kindness does to you, it takes you by surprise and leaves you spellbound. Dance for Kindness was magical. Kindness can make anything happen if you believe in it and just give into it."

Nisha Ravi, Bangalore, India


School Testimonial 2

"Dance for Kindness is amazing in that all ages of students, plus parents, staff, and teachers get involved! It doesn't stop there, it brings energy to the local community."

Julie Garner, co-leader, Shenzhen, China


School Testimonial 1

"This was far more than a “dance” for my students and me, but a unifying experience that has drawn my students, school and community closer together. Dance for Kindness will be a fixture in my community for years to come!"

Jason Hattrick, DFK Group Leader, Vancouver, Washington, USA


Testimonial 33

"Orly Wahba is an amazing speaker, storyteller, and entertainer! Not only was she our keynote speaker at our virtual event in March, but she was also our co-emcee. And boy, did she ever knock it out of the park! When I first met Orly online, I knew a little bit about her work and had seen her videos, but once we started to collaborate, it was evident that she walks her talk. Orly was so easy to work with, perhaps because our work is aligned, and we share similar dreams. On some level, the concept of kindness is so simple. It’s just common sense; I mean how many ways can we encourage people to be kind, right? Who can’t get behind the idea of kindness? The way Orly spoke with her stories, energy, and authenticity, including her impromptu reactions to what was happening at our event, made the simple idea of kindness come alive. Our attendees loved it as evidenced by active and engaged online chat throughout the entire event. If I were to create a word cloud about Orly, I would say she is smart, articulate, passionate, thoughtful, organized, dependable, creative, gracious, kind, supportive, collaborative, caring, and mission-driven! Thank you so much, Orly, for this experience – before, during, and after!"

YMCA of Silicon Valley



Reflections on Freedom

Thinking about this beautiful topic of FREEDOM, I remembered a poem I wrote several years ago. I’ll never forget the experience. I was overtaken by a feeling of inspiration, hope and incredible love for this world and the people in it. I sat down to write not knowing what would come out and in a few minutes this poem just poured out of me. It was this poem that became the basis for one of Life Vest Inside’s worldwide Dance for Kindness anthems.

I hope you enjoy it and even moreso, I hope to hear your perspectives on it.

FREEDOM TO…
Take a stand you and me
Forget about what the world can’t see

It’s not about right or wrong
But which of us can be strong

To stand for freedom, stand for love
Stand for kindness from above

To open up our hearts today
Put aside the pain of yesterday

The world may have begun to lose the faith in me the faith in you
But I won’t stop standing tall
Shouting loud for all to hear the call
This is the time this is our chance
To make our lives kindness enhanced

Believe in you and if that’s all you do
You’ll see that the light in me is the light in you

We’re all same deep down inside
Who says our differences should make us hide

We may read from different books
Have different looks and opposing outlooks

But we must get back to who we are to see the good near and far
The good in you the good in me
The good in all that can be if only we could take a stand, lend each other a helping hand

We’re all a part of the same book
With every page a special hook
But together we create a story that will resonate and give us long awaited glory

The simple fact that you are here
is proof enough to know you’re dear.

Look inside to who you are
And ask yourself how we got this far
Far away from what we know
the love we had hoped to grow

A world of peace, a world of love a world of kindness from above

They say I’m crazy, I’m too naive
I’m just a kid who still believes

But I promise you if you grab my hand
Trust again and take a stand
You too will see the light
That shines above the darkest night.

It’s not out there it’s not out here
It’s in your heart that you hold dear

Take a stand this is our chance
Unite the world through song and dance
It’s not about you or me
It’s what we have the power to set free

Freedom from anger, freedom from lust freedom from greed and distrust
Freedom from hatred freedom from war
Freedom from hopes of evening the score.

Freedom from fear, freedom from pain freedom from hopelessness and shame

Freedom to love, freedom to trust

Freedom to give, freedom to share
Freedom to hope, freedom to care
Freedom to believe freedom to unite
Freedom to end this tiring fight

Freedom to take your life back
to make it matter
make your own new track

To cut ties that divide
To build tomorrow and know we tried
We gave it our all
We didn’t back down
We didn’t retreat
We didn’t breakdown ;
we didn’t fight for the crown
It doesn’t give us what we need
what we crave is a leader to lead

Let’s start standing for what we know
It’s time to put on our best show


The Kindness Flash #61

This month’s theme: FREEDOM


Articles of the Month

Reflections on Tolerance – “Education is the key to tolerance.”

This is a quote I’ve long loved and find myself turning to more and more often. Each and every person in this world is unique in their own way. A simple glance at our fingers is a reminder that we each possess the ability to leave a mark on this world that is different from anyone else.

If each human being has a distinct fingerprint, it goes to say that we each have different ways of thinking, processing, connecting and experiencing the world.

Tolerance is more than putting up with things – it’s a moral virtue – When tolerance is placed within the moral domain relating to fairness, justice and respect and avoiding causing harm to others, it can only be viewed as a positive moral virtue.

Being tolerant – It isn’t simple to be a tolerant person. It is okay to stick to your own values; but it makes sense to evaluate your values, especially if they are having an effect on others.


“Tolerance is the mindful capacity to love, respect, and accept the differences that make people unique.”

Byron R. Pulsifer

“Cultural differences should not separate us from each other, but rather cultural diversity brings a collective strength that can benefit all of humanity.”

Robert Alan

“People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

Nelson Mandela


Act of Kindness

When you don’t agree with another person’s opinion, focus on respecting their right to think for themselves and to believe as they choose. Just as we would never want that right taken away from us, we have a responsibility to extend that same courtesy to other people and treat others with respect, even when we disagree with them.


Question of the Month

How can we be tolerant of those who are intolerant of us? Share here or in the comments below.


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Photo of the Month

How does this photo represent tolerance? Share your thoughts.

Songs of the Month

A song about acceptance, tolerance, and celebrating differences.

This song is urging people to love one another, and questioning why so much hate exists in the world, this song remains relevant more than one decade later, a pertinent reminder that we should extend love to people of all races and religions.

This song about equality is an anthem that has inspired so many to fight for peace and love. Lennon sings about his belief that we are all one people and that we do not have to be divided by borders or religions.

Videos of the Month

Cole Blakeway, a messy ten-year-old, teaches us the value of celebrating differences as he describes his beautiful friendship with Steven, a 44-year-old man with Autism.

An inspiring video about love and tolerance

A deaf girl comes across a boy who is paralyzed from the waist-down, but neither of them know about each other’s differences.

Books of the Month

Far from the Tree – Laurie Calkhoven – Far from the Tree explores how people who love each other must struggle to accept each other—a theme in every family’s life.

Living The Five Skills of Tolerance – Scott Warrick – This book does not focus on what makes us all different. It focuses on what we all have in common and how we all need to treat each other on an individual basis as human beings. The Five Skills of Tolerance form the roadmap that helps US ALL evolve into 21st century human beings and build a better world.

The Psychology of Tolerance in Times of Uncertainty – Malgorzata Kossowska – This unique book lays out the motivational basis for tolerance, the most important underlying factor that shapes people’s social attitudes and determines our ability to get along with others.

One of These Is Not Like the Others – Barney Saltzberg – Even though one of these is not like the others, that’s just fine with these friends…because it’s how they rock and roll. Cute illustrations show friend groups with one different-looking friend.

We’re Different, We’re the Same – Bobbi Kates – Noses look different but they’re the same, too, because they breathe and sniff. Sesame Street characters show kids that no matter how things look on the outside, we’re also the same on the inside.

Just Like Brothers – Elizabeth Baguley – Lush illustrations and lyrical text tell the redemptive story of two different creatures who come together in friendship despite warnings from their parents. Because sometimes people judge negatively when someone is different.